When we live in an ever-competing world, it’s always tempting to look up because that’s where we want to be – or at least that’s what we’ve been told to be. Ever since we were young, we’ve always been told to get the best grades, get into the best schools, and work for the biggest companies to get the best salaries. It’s always about being the best. This is what caused those sleepless nights, drinking way too much coffee, and stressing yourself out because someone else might land that internship if you don’t prepare yourself enough for the interview. Everything in life feels like a competition. If you’re not good enough, someone else will replace you.
This competitive way of thinking is what makes you feel so replaceable. So stop. If you’re looking up and comparing yourself to everyone who is more, then your neck is just going to get tired. It’s time to be realistic. There’s ALWAYS going to be someone who is more – whatever – than you. We live in a world with more than seven BILLION people, so of course there’s bound to be someone who is smarter, funnier, or better at tennis than you. And you know what? That’s okay. It doesn’t matter if someone is more than or better at something than you because everyone is wired differently.
No one else has gone through what you’ve gone through; so don’t worry about other people so much. It’s okay if you haven’t figured out what you’re good at or if you still can’t find something you enjoy doing. Sure, there are a couple of those super lucky people who found their passion ever since they were 3 years old, but hey, they probably haven’t traveled to 20 different countries like you did. You never really know what other people are going through either, so just focus on yourself and take your time.
The truth is, half of us probably don’t even know what the heck they’re doing either, so don’t feel pressured. Cut yourself some slack and just work at your own pace. Go pick up a new hobby or try out that new restaurant down the block, you’ll never know where inspiration might struck you.
So stop comparing yourself, it really doesn't make it any better.
Life is not a competition, so trust that right now,
you are exactly where you need to be.
Written by: Dipa Karno